To set the scene; yesterday was mother’s day and that saw my wife and I load the kids into the car and take them to see my parents. After lunch I was sat with my mum and she asked about my website. She then read my post about the right to die and then challenged some of my viewpoints. We then engaged in some lively conversation before agreeing that the post at least fulfilled its objective of stimulating debate (even if some of our views differed).
I mentioned that I had thought about gay marriage as a topic for a piece – although to be honest, prior to that point, I had decided not to write about the subject. I ended up having such an interesting conversation with my mum that I changed my mind and decided to write after all.
I have this fairly straightforward opinion that gay marriages should be allowed – I don’t understand what all the fuss is about because if two people love each other and want to make the commitment then why does it matter what sex they are. Live and let live I say! I’ll admit that I have no real religious persuasion and that makes it easier for me to have this simple perspective.
My mum was strongly of the opinion that marriage was essentially a holy communion and that the church couldn’t be expected to countenance an approach that would be at odds with the preaching of the bible. I then pointed out that people don’t have to get married in church – and for the record I didn’t, although my sister did! It must be said though that the Government is politically bright enough not to be entertaining the concept of forcing churches to marry same sex couples!
That lead to an interesting debate about whether a civil partnership was enough and was anything more really necessary. As I am not a legal eagle, I don’t really appreciate what the differences are between the states of marriage and civil partnership – that made it hard to progress with that line of enquiry.
In the end the conversation with my mum didn’t really reach a conclusion because the kids were bouncing around and we ended up getting distracted. Still, I better appreciate why the subject has polarised opinions.
It was nice to have some intellectual discussion with my mum, we don't make the time to do that very often and maybe we should try a bit harder to do so more regularly!